Paul O. Dillon, Attorney at Law

What are the Biggest Mistakes People Make with Estate Plans?

Ask any estate planning attorney for a horror story and step back as they come flooding out. Moms who leave millions to a veterinarian to care for a beloved cat or uncles who grabbed and kept a half-million-dollar insurance policy intended for a son are just a few examples.

When your estate plan isn’t properly prepared, many things can go wrong, according to a recent article from Kiplinger, “Wills Gone Wild: How to Avoid Estate Planning Disasters.” Assets can end up with the wrong people, or beloved children can be disinherited entirely. A bungled do-it-yourself will can lead to a distant cousin inheriting your entire estate, while a life-long partner ends up homeless and impoverished.

If you intend to protect those you love, you’ll need to sit down with an estate planning attorney and create a last will and testament and other estate planning documents. Without a will, you can be sure family discord will follow your passing.

Aretha Franklin provides one lesson on what happens when there’s no formal will. Not one but two handwritten or holographic wills were found in her home in Detroit after she died. One, dated 2010, was found in a locked cabinet, while the second was found under a couch cushion, dated 2014. There were four sons, and all disagreed about which one was valid. The matter went to court, with a judge ruling the 2014 will was valid. Not all states accept holographic wills and leaving more than one copy around the home doesn’t guarantee anything but a family fight and legal expenses.

Many people are testing online wills. However, the unintended consequences are very costly for loved ones. One father decided he would create a will without an estate planning attorney. When he died, instead of dividing his estate equally between three adult children, all his property and assets went to the children and the grandchildren. Each of his three children had children, so what he intended to be a simple three-way split ended up being divided into many small gifts.

Second and subsequent marriages can complicate estates. Estate planning attorneys all have stories about remarried people who want their estate to go to the new spouse but forget to take care of their children from the first marriage. When the second spouse inherits the entire estate, it’s easy enough to rewrite the will, and the deceased spouse’s kids are disinherited. A surviving spouse is under no legal obligation to maintain an old will or to give assets to stepchildren. Estate planning attorneys know how to use trusts and other strategies to protect the surviving spouse and the biological children.

Pets are often part of estate planning disasters. One attorney tells the tale of a client estranged from her only child, a daughter. She wanted to leave everything in her estate to her cats. However, something went very wrong, and her veterinarian inherited $3.5 million. In this case, the vet was an upstanding citizen and worked with an estate planning attorney to ensure any monies left after the death of the cats went to animal charities. However, there was no legal requirement for the vet to do so.

Elderly people are often preyed upon by their trusted caretakers. One horror story concerned two elderly men who lived together and shared a home care nurse. When one of the men was hospitalized, the caretaker and her husband came to the home and exploited the second man. The caregiver convinced the elderly man to make her a beneficiary of a $500,000 CD and joint owner of a lakefront vacation home.

When it comes to estate planning, the only way to avoid a nightmare legacy is to meet with an experienced estate planning attorney and have an estate plan created. Estate planning attorneys have seen more wild tales than you can imagine and can ensure that you don’t become one of them.

Reference: Kiplinger (Jan. 29, 2025) “Wills Gone Wild: How to Avoid Estate Planning Disasters”

How to Balance Love and Legacy in a Second Marriage?

Getting married for the second or even third time presents many challenges for estate planning, finances and family dynamics. A thoughtful strategy can build a harmonious family and protect legacies, according to a recent article from The Street, “Love and Legacy: Balancing the Two in a Second Marriage.”

Finances can be a flash point for subsequent marriages, especially if spouses have different levels of assets. Mature couples typically come to a second marriage with children, houses, retirement accounts, alimony and credit card debt. How will assets be distributed, what will inheritances look like and how will the couple plan for the future? These are just a few questions to address when marrying again.

Other issues to consider:

Home ownership. Should the new spouse be added to the deed if one spouse owns a home and the other spouse moves in? This has implications for estate planning. If both spouses are on the deed, what is the plan upon the death of the first spouse? If the home automatically passes to the surviving spouse, the children of the deceased spouse may be excluded from their share of the home ownership.

Beneficiary designations. Marrying again with healthy retirement accounts requires looking ahead. If the new spouse is named a beneficiary, are the deceased’s children disinherited? What if a spouse wishes to leave money to their biological children only. However, the surviving spouse won’t have enough money to live on?

Inheritance rights. Balancing the inheritance of biological children while ensuring that the spouses have protected each other takes advance planning. Without it, a surviving spouse could be left homeless or dependent upon adult children for support. An estate planning attorney may recommend a marital trust to provide for the surviving spouse, while ensuring an inheritance for the children.

Social Security benefits. For those who counted on the higher benefit level of their first spouses, remarrying may impact SSI, surviving spouses, or divorced surviving spouse benefits. This is something to explore before marriage, since it can’t be undone.

These issues may feel overwhelming. However, tackling them before marriage can prevent friction between the couple and stepchildren. Among the many plans for a wedding, an appointment with an estate planning attorney should be made to create a personalized estate plan to address your unique situation, including children from prior marriages.

Your meeting should also include a complete review of all wills, trusts, beneficiary designations and retirement plans. Ensure that your documents reflect your new marriage and distribute assets according to your wishes.

Blended families are complicated and require personalized estate, tax, and financial planning. The increasing numbers of people choosing to love again and blend their families show how much people value being part of a family. Protecting your family with a well-thought-out estate plan can start a new marriage on the right foot.

Reference: The Street (Dec. 19, 2024) “Love and Legacy: Balancing the Two in a Second Marriage”

What are Risks of a DIY Estate Plan?

The number of online tools purporting to create estate plans easily and cheaply makes it tempting to forgo working with an estate planning attorney, but the long-term consequences of a DIY estate plan could be disastrous. A recent article from mondaq, “Risks of DIY Estate Planning” takes a close look at what can go wrong.

Estate and tax laws are both complicated and nuanced. Without an experienced estate planning attorney overseeing the creation of an estate plan, a homegrown plan isn’t likely to achieve the desired results. In addition, chances are good it won’t follow state law. If a last will and testament is found to be invalid during probate, it’s as if there was no will at all.

Estate planning needs to be created for each person’s unique situation. Do family members get along, or should the estate plan be designed to be litigation-proof? Are there large assets held in trust or corporations with complex tax consequences? If there are family members with special needs, have the proper trusts been established to protect them over their lifetimes?

Tax planning is often a significant part of an estate plan. Depending on your state and where you own property or businesses, your estate must consider many different types of taxes. Transfer tax, capital gains taxes, income taxes, and estate taxes are just a few of the taxes to be addressed. If the estate plan doesn’t dovetail with tax liabilities, beneficiaries could find themselves with a far smaller inheritance than anticipated.

Today’s modern family is not as straightforward as in the past. Families come in many different variations, all of which have their own special challenges. Blended families are fairly common, and a traditional “I love you” will, where one spouse leaves the other everything and vice versa, may result in some children being disinherited. Same-sex married couples with children need to be sure their children, biological and adopted, are protected with an estate plan designed to protect all members of the family.

Comprehensive estate plans should address asset distribution issues, guardianship for minor children, and name an executor and heirs. A Power of Attorney is needed so spouses may be involved in each other’s healthcare. Living Wills are required to clarify wishes for end-of-life care, as are Advanced Medical Directives. There are a host of documents to be created and decisions to be made, all of which require the knowledge and experience of an established estate planning attorney.

Reference: mondaq (July 1, 2024) “Risks of DIY Estate Planning”

Top Estate Planning Mistakes Can Easily Be Avoided

The music icon Prince was far from the only celebrity failing to have a will, the most significant estate planning mistake of all. Tobacco heiress Dorothy Duke named her butler the executor of a $1.3 billion estate, and her family spent millions on legal costs before the estate was settled. You don’t have to be wealthy to make an expensive estate blunder, says a recent article from Microsoft Start Money, “Seven Estate Planning Mistakes You Can’t Afford To Make.” Regular people also make costly mistakes.  However, they can easily be avoided by following these steps.

Procrastinating until the “right” time. Making decisions when you’re under a time constraint because of an unexpected event is a bad time to do estate planning. Leaving a mess for your children to figure out will almost always end badly. Fighting among family members, assets lost to cost battles and unnecessary stress are just a few of the headaches. It’s not how you want to be remembered.

Not updating your estate plan. Wills are like pets—they require ongoing care. If a new child is born and your will isn’t updated, you’ve effectively disinherited the child. If you remarry and don’t update your estate plan or beneficiary designations, your new spouse will have little recourse to what you might have left them. The same goes for major changes in your financial life, up or down.

Putting your head in the sand about taxes. In the last 15 years, there have been many tax changes. Failing to address tax changes with estate planning in mind can lead to financial disasters. Remember, you may not be near the federal estate tax threshold. However, if your state levies estate taxes, you’ll need to plan for them.

If the lifetime estate and gift tax exemption reverts to pre-2017 tax law levels, “average” wealthy people with estates worth around $6.46 million will pay federal estate taxes. If this is your situation, start talking with your estate planning attorney now to address this change.

Ignoring incapacity. We’re not sure which is harder to consider, incapacity or death. Neither is pleasant to consider; one is likely, and another is certain. Having the right plan in place means having the power of attorney, health care directives, HIPAA release forms, do not resuscitate, living wills and other documents specific to your state are all part of estate planning.

Forgetting to plan for non-cash assets. If you own a home, what do you want to have happen to the home upon your death? If you become incapacitated, who will take care of your home, your pets and any property requiring upkeep? Classic cars, antiques and art collections must be disposed of in a planned manner.

Neglecting digital assets. More and more of our lives are now conducted online. Bank accounts, social media, photos, online businesses and cryptocurrencies are not included in household assets by your will. You’ll need to provide a tech-savvy person with information on your accounts, create an inventory and direct the person to serve as your digital executor.

Trying to do it yourself. Creating an estate plan without the help of an experienced estate planning attorney is asking for trouble. Here’s just one example: a family thought it was a good idea to retitle the house to Joint Tenancy with Right of Survivorship for the parent and an adult child. They didn’t know about the child’s serious debt situation. The child now had an asset, and creditors moved swiftly to put a lien on the house. The family eventually lost the house to the creditors.

Reference: Microsoft Start Money (June 23, 2024) “Seven Estate Planning Mistakes You Can’t Afford To Make”

Stay-at-Home Parents Need an Estate Plan

Any family’s estate plan must address all aspects of life, planning for incapacity and death. It’s easy to overlook the Stay-at-Home Mom (SAHM) or dad. They don’t have paychecks, raises, reviews, or PTO. But, overlooking the importance of what the SAH parent does for the family is a big mistake, and this includes neglecting estate planning, according to a smart article from The News Enterprise: “Stay-at-home parents must be deliberate about estate plans.”

For one thing, life insurance needs to be in place for both spouses. It may be easy to define the amount of insurance for the spouse working outside of the home, but the SAH parent’s tasks also need to be insured.

How long will the children be at home needing care, and what would daycare or a caretaker cost? How much would it cost to hire someone to cook, clean, do laundry, and run the household?

If children are home-schooled, how will the SAH parent be replaced? Will the children start attending public school, or is private school more aligned with the family’s values?

It’s easy to think the working parent will slide into these tasks, but unrealistic, as any single working parent will tell you. The children will be dealing with grief and emotional upheavals—adding a stressed parent to the mix who is also dealing with grief will make for a terrible situation.

In addition to having the right amount of life insurance, estate planning documents should be prepared with an eye on this possibility. The last will and testament is used to name a guardian for minor children, who will be responsible for raising the children if both parents are unable to care for them because of death or incapacity. A revocable trust should be considered, and a trustee should be appointed to ensure the funds are available for the children’s care and education.

The revocable trust can also ensure the children are not disinherited if the surviving spouse remarries.

This plan needs the review and guidance of an experienced estate planning attorney to ensure the will is correctly created to protect the children and set up any needed trusts.

Stay-at-home parents are often the glue keeping the family running. Replacing them isn’t possible—but preparing for life’s ups and downs will help the family adjust to any major changes.

Reference: The News Enterprise (May 25, 2024) “Stay-at-home parents must be deliberate about estate plans”

How are Retirement Plans Handled in an Estate Plan?

If you have recently completed your estate plan, Kudos! But if you haven’t updated an estate plan, or worse, don’t have one at all, and haven’t reviewed retirement assets in years, your heirs may be in for some unpleasant surprises. The recent article from Whittier Daily News, “Are your retirement and estate plans at odds? Tips to fix that,” provides essential details.

Whatever directions you provide will not affect the beneficiary designations on your retirement accounts. You may have wanted your spouse to receive all your assets after your death, but this won’t happen if the named beneficiary is someone else, such as a child or former spouse.

Pension and other retirement plans are subject to a host of federal regulations. Upon death, pension funds typically go to a surviving spouse. The surviving spouse is not allowed to designate anyone else as the beneficiary, even if a part of the surviving spouse’s retirement plan is deemed community property in your state.

IRAs and pension funds require careful planning to ensure distributions align with your wishes. Federal law governing qualified retirement plans requires a married spouse's consent to name anyone else as a beneficiary. Suppose the estate planning goal is to have the assets in the retirement account pass to biological children, not the spouse. In that case, an updated beneficiary designation form and the correct spousal release forms must be updated. A pre- or post-nuptial document will not suffice for this to be enforceable.

This is why all accounts or assets where beneficiaries can be named need to be reviewed whenever an estate plan is created or revised. This issue becomes particularly critical for blended families.

Suppose your trust contains language leaving retirement assets to your children. In that case, even if it contains great detail about the accounts and how you’d like the assets to be distributed, it won’t matter if the beneficiary designation names another person.

Trusts need careful construction to prevent children from being disinherited. Often, the answer is to have a single trust designed to “split” into two trusts upon the first spouse's death. These are known as “A/B” trusts. The surviving spouse’s share is held in Trust A, while the decedent’s share of the trust is held in Trust B and accessible to the surviving spouse. When the second spouse dies, whatever assets are held in Trust B are distributed to the stated beneficiaries. Other estate planning solutions are available when concerns about the surviving spouse arise within the trusts.

A final note: if you fail to complete beneficiary designation forms for retirement plans, the assets may need to go through probate. Distribution of the retirement plan assets will be governed by the retirement plan document, which includes language for a default beneficiary. Usually, the default beneficiary is your estate.

Consult with an estate planning attorney to ensure that your estate plan and retirement plan work together to achieve the desired results.

Reference: Whittier Daily News (April 7, 2024) “Are your retirement and estate plans at odds? Tips to fix that”

What Is the Best Method of Disinheriting Someone?

There is a myth about being able to exclude someone from receiving an inheritance by leaving the person a single dollar as a token inheritance amount. The myth is as pervasive as it is incorrect, according to an article, “The art and science to disinheriting someone,” from Coeur d’Alene/Post Falls Press.

This myth often shows up when people try to create their own wills. The theory is that by leaving a single dollar, the heir cannot make a case to a judge that their parents forgot to include them in the will, and doing so was an unintended oversight, one the judge can fix.

While this method doesn’t work, a well-written will can avoid the possibility of presenting an argument about an heir being forgotten. The person to be disinherited needs to be identified clearly, as well as the relationship of the person to the person making the will, and specific language goes into the will explaining the person is in no way, shape, or form to receive any inheritance from the estate.

The practice of leaving a token one-dollar inheritance to someone you want to exclude from the estate actually creates more problems than it solves. By leaving a token gift, you’ve made the person a beneficiary of the will or trust estate, thereby giving them rights they would not otherwise have had.

The token one dollar now means the person is within their legal rights to require notice of proceedings and accountings of finances of the probate or trust estate and has other rights unique to estate beneficiaries.

In short, the person you presented with a one-dollar inheritance can create a lot of trouble for the executor.

Another strategy when a person wishes to make an heir less likely to challenge the distribution of property is to use a no-contest provision in the will. The no-contest provision needs to align with the laws of the state. However, the overall concept is that anyone challenging the will shall not receive an inheritance and may have to pay legal fees for contesting the will.

A version of this is to give the person a certain amount of inheritance, enough that they wouldn’t want to lose it and use a no-contest provision. They have a choice—accept the inheritance they were offered or challenge it and risk losing everything.

Experienced estate planning attorneys have seen many different situations where someone wished to leave a family member out of the will. Have a candid discussion with your estate planning attorney about your situation, including the history of the person you wish to leave out of your will, and they’ll find a solution to resolve the issue.

Reference: Coeur d’Alene/Post Falls Press (Jan. 14. 2024) “The art and science to disinheriting someone”

How Do You Stop Family Fights over Inheritance?

One of the many aspects of a professionally created estate plan involves employing strategies to avoid inheritance disputes. Your estate planning attorney has various tools, from creating a revocable living trust to drafting a detailed and legally sound will, as outlined in the article “6 Estate Management Strategies to Avoid Inheritance Disputes and How to Implement Them” from Legal Reader.

Creating a revocable living trust and placing assets in the trust allows those assets to be passed to heirs directly and according to the instructions you provide in the language of the trust. Assets not in the will need to pass through the probate process, where those involved in the estate plan might need to attend lengthy and stressful court proceedings. In some jurisdictions, the court may require the presence of all heirs and even estranged family members who were not properly disinherited.

In the probate process, beneficiaries can air grievances if they are unhappy with the inheritance agreement and could potentially challenge the will. By passing assets via a trust, you can completely reduce or avoid the opportunity for these disputes to occur.

The foundation of a successful estate plan is a will created with an experienced estate planning attorney. A will is a legally binding document outlining how the decedent wanted their assets and property distributed upon death. The estate planning attorney will work with you to ensure the language in the will is extremely specific and leaves no room for interpretation.

Some assets pass through beneficiary designations, including life insurance policies, retirement, investment, and bank accounts. To avoid problems with these financial assets, regularly review and update beneficiary designations to avoid giving someone no longer in your life a generous gift. These should be reviewed anytime a significant life event occurs, like marriage, divorce, birth or death, changes in financial circumstances, or when you acquire new assets.

A prenuptial agreement can mitigate the risk of inheritance disputes by establishing specific terms and conditions in the event of a divorce. They are particularly important in states where the courts can divide property acquired during the marriage regardless of where the assets came from. By drafting documents explicitly declaring intentions about the treatment of inherited assets, you provide an additional layer of protection to assets in case of divorce. The process also fosters communication between parties to assist in clarifying expectations for the future.

A well-drafted no-contest clause can diminish the likelihood of legal battles among heirs and challengers. It helps dissuade disgruntled beneficiaries from pursuing costly litigation by putting any inheritance at risk if they should decide to pursue what they feel are unfair distributions. It is imperative to engage an experienced estate planning attorney licensed to practice law in your state to have an effective no-contest clause in a will or a trust.

In some situations, liquidating non-cash assets like real estate makes the most sense. It’s far easier to divide cash than proportions of real estate. However, a buyout arrangement can be implemented if one sibling wants to purchase the property. Beneficiaries could buy out each other’s shares if there's more than one heir, eliminating the need to sell the asset.

By working with an experienced estate planning attorney, you can ensure your will clearly articulates your wishes, prepares for unexpected scenarios, plans for taxes, and minimizes ambiguities.

Reference: Legal Reader (Dec. 4, 2023) “6 Estate Management Strategies to Avoid Inheritance Disputes and How to Implement Them”

Estate Planning for Unmarried Senior Couples

An increasing number of couples at various stages of life are choosing to live together without marrying, making estate planning a bit more challenging. This is true whether the couple is relatively young and has children or if they are seniors, according to a recent article from Kiplinger, “Estate Planning and the Legal Quirks of Retiree Cohabitation.”

From one perspective, living together without being legally married provides an advantage: you have your own estate plan. You may distribute assets after death with no obligation to leave anything to a partner or their biological children. In many jurisdictions, the law requires spouses to leave a significant portion to their surviving spouse. This doesn’t apply if you’re cohabitating.

However, there are downsides. For example, a surviving unmarried partner doesn’t benefit from inheriting assets without estate taxes. A non-spouse transferring assets may find themselves generating sizable estate or income taxes. To avoid this, your estate planning attorney will discuss tax liability strategies.

Owning real property together can get complicated. Consider an unmarried couple buying a property solely in one person’s name, excluding the partner to sidestep any possible gift taxes. If the sole owner dies, the partner has no claim to the property. The solution could be planning for property rights in the estate plan, possibly leaving the property outright to the partner or in trust for the partner’s use throughout their lifetime. It still has to be planned for in advance of incapacity or, of course, death.

Regarding healthcare communication and directives, special care must be taken to ensure that the couple can be involved in each other’s care and decision-making. By law, decision-making might default to the married spouse or kin. Without a designated healthcare proxy, a cohabitating partner has no legal authority to obtain medical information, make medical decisions, or, in some cases, won’t even have the ability to have access to a hospitalized partner. A healthcare power of attorney is essential for unmarried couples.

For senior couples living together, blending families can be challenging. However, blending finances can be even more complex. Living together later in life can create many concerns if there are former spouses or children from a prior relationship. If a senior decides to marry, they are advised to have a prenuptial agreement so children from previous unions are not disinherited. If a potential spouse has big issues signing such a document, it should raise a red flag to their motivation to marry.

While living together without the legal protection of marriage is an individual decision and may be seen as a means of avoiding legalities, it needs to be examined from the perspective of estate planning to protect both parties and their families. Couples must prepare for the future, for better or worse, in sickness and health.

Reference: Kiplinger (Dec. 6, 2023) “Estate Planning and the Legal Quirks of Retiree Cohabitation”

Can You Successfully Disinherit a Family Member?

You don’t have to leave your estate to anyone. Suppose you leave everything in your estate to one person and exclude someone else who might normally be included. In that case, it’s your choice, according to the article “Estate Planning: Disinheriting a loved one” from nwi.com.

Many people ask about using the “one dollar bequest.” However, it’s not a commonly used provision nor is it necessary.

Depending upon the state, some estate planning attorneys prefer to acknowledge the disinherited individual and recognize their exclusion was the intention of the testator. Some use language like this: “I specifically acknowledge that I have made no provision for my daughter Jane Smith and have done so knowingly, intentionally and for reasons known only to me.”

This language doesn’t offer a lot for the disinherited individual to challenge. What language could cause a problem? Try this: “I make no bequest for my daughter Jane Smith because she drinks too much.” This opens the door for Jane to prove she doesn’t drink any more than the average person, and if Dad had only known this, he wouldn’t have excluded her.

It may not be the best argument heard in a courtroom. However, it wouldn’t be the worst either.

The issue of using a no-challenge clause in a will is different. A no-challenge clause in a will is known as an in terrorem clause. In Latin, in terrorem means “in fear of.” This clause can be used to punish someone who challenges a will. The punishment could be automatic removal from the will or a shift of legal costs to the person who challenges the will. The clause intends to deter a challenge.

In some states, these clauses are not used. In others, they are automatically voided. Indiana used to void such provisions until 2018 when Indiana law changed automatically, and in terrorem clauses were deemed acceptable.

The clause can add an additional layer of protection for people who are concerned about family members who might react to being disinherited.

The critical thing to remember is you may leave or not leave your estate or portions of your estate to whoever you want to. Don’t let traditions or conventions of what you “should” do impact how you distribute your estate.

Speak with your estate planning attorney if you are concerned about ensuring that your wishes are carried out. When your will goes through probate, it becomes a public document. Therefore, anyone who asks can read it. Your estate planning attorney may suggest using trusts, which can afford greater privacy as they never become part of the public record.

Reference: nwi.com (Oct. 15, 2023) “Estate Planning: Disinheriting a loved one”